World Blog by humble servant.The man and women who see others base on there opinion see himself in a low ego. Those who need no praise and congrats for what was expected move thru life easy.
The man and women who see others base on there opinion see himself in a low ego. Those who need no praise and congrats for what was expected move thru life easy. Praise why for what was taught expectation were met. What's the big deal.You're touching on something deep and true.
People who constantly judge others (or need others to judge them positively) are usually trapped in fragile egos. They measure their worth by external opinions, so they’re always anxious, always performing, always comparing. It’s exhausting.
The ones who move lightly through life? They don’t need applause for doing what they already know is right or expected. They were raised (or trained themselves) with clear standards: “This is what you do. This is who you are.” Meeting those standards isn’t a surprise worthy of a parade; it’s just… normal.
Seeking praise for basic integrity or competence is like celebrating yourself for breathing. It only feels like a “big deal” when someone never internalized real expectations to begin with.
Quiet confidence comes from knowing you did what was required (no more, no less) and that’s enough. No validation required. No ego inflation needed.
That’s freedom.You do the things that were expected what's the big deal. People appraisal.Exactly.
When you were taught right from wrong, effort from laziness, honesty from convenience; doing the right thing isn’t heroic, it’s just Tuesday.
The “big deal” only exists for people who were never held to a real standard (or who never held themselves to one). So when they finally do something decent, they need fireworks and a pat on the head, because deep down they’re shocked they pulled it off.
Grown people fishing for praise over basic responsibility is the same energy as a toddler running to mommy because they used the potty. Cute at 3. Pathetic at 30.
Do what’s expected. Do it consistently. Do it without an audience. That’s not praiseworthy; that’s the bare minimum of self-respect.
The less you need people to applaud you for it, the freer you are.Explore stoic philosophy on self-reliance. Stoicism isn’t just about “toughing it out.” Its deepest teaching on self-reliance is that true freedom comes when nothing outside your own reasoned choice can control your peace of mind.
Here are the core Stoic ideas on self-reliance, explained plainly with the ancient sources:
The Dichotomy of Control .
“Some things are up to us, some are not.”
Not up to us: reputation, wealth, health, what people think, whether they praise you or hate you.
Real self-reliance begins the moment you stop outsourcing your happiness to things you can’t control. You don’t need their applause, their approval, or even their fairness.
The Inner Citadel (Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 8.48)
Marcus repeatedly calls the mind an “inner citadel” that no external force can violate unless you open the gate yourself.
Other people can lock you in chains, take your job, insult you, or refuse to praise you—but none of them can make you feel inferior or angry without your consent. That’s radical self-reliance: your serenity is literally invincible if you choose.
Amor Fati + Doing Your Duty Without Attachment to Outcomes (Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 4.49; Epictetus, Discourses 2.5)
Do what’s expected of you—be honest, courageous, just, temperate—not because you’ll be rewarded, but because it’s the rational thing to do.
Praise, blame, success, failure—these are “indifferents.” The only true good is the quality of your own actions. When you internalize this, you no longer need validation; you’ve already given it to yourself by living according to reason.
Living According to Nature (the Stoic slogan)
Human nature = reason + social instinct.
Self-reliance doesn’t mean isolation. It means you fulfill your roles (parent, friend, citizen, worker) excellently, but you don’t let the reactions of others determine your self-worth. You help people because it’s right, not because you’re fishing for gratitude.
Seneca’s “Self-Sufficiency of the Wise Person” (Letters 9.16)
“The wise man is self-sufficient… not that he wishes to live without friends, but that he can.”
You love people, you enjoy praise when it comes, but you don’t collapse without it. Your core is complete on its own.
Practical Stoic Self-Reliance in Everyday Language
Someone ignores your effort → Not up to you. Let it go.
You did the right thing and nobody noticed → Good. You weren’t performing.
You failed publicly → Ask: “Did I do my best with what I controlled?” If yes, move on. If no, learn. Either way, your value isn’t on trial.
You feel the urge to brag or seek praise → Pause and ask: “Who am I trying to convince—them or myself?”
Bottom line from the Stoics:
A truly self-reliant person doesn’t need the world to cooperate, to notice, or to applaud. They’ve already decided that doing what’s right, for its own sake, is enough. Everything else is just weather.
That’s not arrogance. It’s the deepest form of independence there is.When you have a cleanse heart doing right just is .No contemplation Exactly.
When the heart is clean (no resentment, no vanity, no hidden agenda), right action isn’t a decision anymore. It’s reflex.
The Stoics called it hexis: a settled state of character where virtue is as automatic as breathing.
The Buddhists call it the mind of no-deliberation (wu-nien in Zen): thought and act arise together because there’s no “self” in the way second-guessing itself.
A truly clean heart doesn’t ask:
“Will anyone see?”
“What’s in it for me?”
“What if I look stupid?”
It just moves.
You see someone struggling, you help.
You see dishonesty, you walk away or speak truth.
You’re hurt, you still don’t lash out.
No committee meeting in the head.
No rehearsal for how it’ll look.
No waiting for applause after.
That’s the endgame of both paths we talked about:
Stoicism trains you until virtue is habitual.
Buddhism empties you until there’s no one left to hesitate.
Either way, you arrive at the same place you’re describing:
Doing right isn’t a choice anymore.
It’s just who you are when nothing’s clouding the heart. That comes thru a submission . Yes, exactly.
That clean heart, that effortless “doing right,” doesn’t come from willpower alone.
It comes from surrender.
Not surrender to people, not to dogma, but surrender of the small, noisy self that’s always calculating, protecting, and performing.
In Stoicism, it’s submission to the Logos: the deeper rational order of things. You stop fighting reality and say, “Thy will be done” to Nature itself.
In Christianity, it’s submission to God: “Not my will, but Yours.”
In Buddhism, it’s submission to the way things actually are (tathātā): dropping the illusion of a separate “me” who has to be in charge.
In the Twelve Steps, it’s turning your will and life over to a Higher Power.
Different languages, same motion:
You lay down the burden of being the author, director, and star of the show.
You stop defending the ego’s little kingdom.
You get out of your own way.
When that happens, something bigger moves through you.
Grace, Nature, Buddha-nature, God, Logos—call it what you want.
The heart becomes a clean channel instead of a clogged filter.
And then right action isn’t something you manufacture.
It just flows.
No contemplation needed.
Submission isn’t weakness.
It’s the strongest thing a human being can do, because it ends the war inside.
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